Bitch Please

       No matter your gender, you've heard it, been called it, used it even. For women the connotation is harsh and definitive, stamped on the forehead as punishment for for actions deemed as "improper and cruel" to whomever subjectively does the labeling. Pronouncing a woman to be a bitch in the traditional sense is to label whatever comes out of her mouth as rude and irrational, much like the deeming of being a Shrew in Shakespearean times. For men however, it is of even worse connotation. A man who is a bitch is a man being rude and irrational...but lacking all masculinity and falling into the same category as women. Also definitive, equally as much of a lash to moral. But as you noticed... nothing I just said was news.

    Why should a woman be punished and labeled for stating something she believes to be honest, or acting on her own accord? Why does she have to be put down for speaking her mind? Why does she have to be known for being rude and inconsiderate because of someone's opinion? They're her damn beliefs!

I think Megan Carpentier puts it best in the statement, "Being a bitch is every woman's birthright". If a man asserts his opinions then he is a "boss" and admired for his confidence while a woman can do the same thing and be dismissed for being a "bitch". And lo', the double standard was conceived to maintain a male driven world. 

   Business women are known for being cold and assertive bitches, but in reality, that is one of the only ways to assure to be taken seriously. Nicki Minaj in an interview with Chelsea Handler (known for being an over-saturated lady rapper, but unrecognized for being a business woman and representing herself) claims it is ultimately the only way to be heard. So ladies, how do we maintain a likable demeanor while maintaining a known presence? We become a straight up boss bitch. 

Circumstances in which it is acceptable to  be a bitch
~  If someone makes a sexist ass comment. Pardon my language, but that is never acceptable even in joking. In no way will I make anyone a sandwich, and in no way do I have to take orders just because I am a woman.So why put up with anyone with a superiority complex? Spread the respect.
~If someone drops the R word. Look at this one as a big picture. If someone is using a word rooted in ignorance to put someone down...why not stand up for those being hurt? In other words, if you have to stand up for those who are being hurt directly or indirectly, go ahead and be a bitch.
~If one insists on asserting their stupid. People have a tendency to hold their beliefs to be true, which is perfectly fine, but when they are persistent that you change yours...then it's acceptable to hold your own.
~When you need to be taken seriously. Now I'm talking about if you are not being taken seriously previously. If you are being dismissed, then make sure to stand your ground and be assertive. And I mean if you have to...be a bitch.

However there is quite a difference to being a bad bitch and being downright unreasonable. You can have manners and still be a boss bitch. I cannot emphasize that enough.

When it is NOT okay to get bitchy
~At a restaurant. Oh. My. God. If you've ever worked in one you know the exact thing I'm talking about, but serving is tough. Rude customers are even tougher. Nothing makes a long, bustling day spent of your feet longer than putting on a fake smile to rude customers. Because nothing is a bigger nightmare in the food industry than involving a manager with a fussy customer over a stupid conflict. Be civil, remember those manners, don't ruin a server's day with attitude.
~To people who clean up after you. Janitors, maintenance workers, BSWs, anyone whose job it is to clean up after you. Even if they aren't as thorough as you'd like, people are people and bitching them out is not acceptable and will not make it any better. If you want to be respected, give respect.
~If you are having a bad day. I guarantee if you give someone attitude because you are having a bad day, you will bring down their mood as well. Keep your attitude in check and make sure good karma spreads.

So don't settle for being a basic bitch and be a boss bitch. Stop the stigma- be heard.